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爱情保鲜?做到这两点就对了

【摘要】阿泽自从跟乐鱼彻夜长谈一番后,恋爱之路明显变得顺利了许多。不仅很快走出了失恋阴影,还凭借三寸不烂之舌在一个月内又谈下一个女朋友。当俩人的合影出现在朋友圈里时,几乎收获了几乎所有圈内好友的赞。“这小子,总算出息了!”可不曾想,还没开心半个月,阿泽又愁眉苦脸地上门来了,看着他抽头丧气欲言又止的模样,乐鱼不慌不忙地给他泡了杯热茶。“几个意思?”乐鱼一脸嘲讽的看着阿泽。“你可别幸灾乐祸了,我什么事儿也没有,就是有点担心。”阿泽郑重地说“我也不知道怎么回事,身边的女朋友要是不那么完美我还觉得相处比较融洽,可像现在这个女朋友,对我是真好,我就特别担...

阿泽自从跟乐鱼彻夜长谈一番后,恋爱之路明显变得顺利了许多。不仅很快走出了失恋阴影,还凭借三寸不烂之舌在一个月内又谈下一个女朋友。当俩人的合影出现在朋友圈里时,几乎收获了几乎所有圈内好友的赞。“这小子,总算出息了!”


可不曾想,还没开心半个月,阿泽又愁眉苦脸地上门来了,看着他抽头丧气欲言又止的模样,乐鱼不慌不忙地给他泡了杯热茶。“几个意思?”乐鱼一脸嘲讽的看着阿泽。“你可别幸灾乐祸了,我什么事儿也没有,就是有点担心。”阿泽郑重地说“我也不知道怎么回事,身边的女朋友要是不那么完美我还觉得相处比较融洽,可像现在这个女朋友,对我是真好,我就特别担心万一又像之前的恋爱一样分分钟进入疲劳期了怎么办?到时候又是横竖看对方不顺眼,最后闹得不欢而散。”


其实不仅仅是阿泽,我们生活中也有很多情侣遇到这样的问题——“不知如何将感情保鲜”


找到病因,想治好就不难了。乐鱼给阿泽开了这样一个药方,希望屏幕对面的你,也能学到这两招,挽救你即将失去新鲜感的爱情。


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有句硬道理,叫“忆苦思甜”,就是当你温饱的时候,也别忘了挨饿的时候自己过得是怎样的生活,相信大家一定从小就听过。但真正能在方方面面践行它的人,又有几个呢?尤其在感情上,记住它对你的帮助非常之大。


我们很容易发现一个事实,当大多数人单身时,生活总是比非单身的状态要多姿多彩许多。画展、签售会、漫展、首映式…等等娱乐活动充斥着每一个单身的人的周末,甚至实在没什么有意思的事儿,宁可约上几个好友打一场球或是小聚喝杯茶,都不愿意荒废掉一个个难得的周末。


而进入恋爱关系以后呢?基本就陷入各种两人活动的范畴了。逛街、看电影、吃东西,这“老三样”几乎就是情侣之间约会的固定模板,甚至有许多没有恋爱经验的小伙伴以为,谈恋爱就是老老实实去做这几件事儿。这就全错了。


保持恋爱鲜度的第一招,就是永远提醒自己,“从不满足于眼前的乐趣”。既然单身的时候生活可以那么多姿多彩,有女朋友了为什么不可以呢?既然两个人能够走到一起,一定是有许许多多的地方相互吸引,假如你进入恋爱关系以后就放弃做之前那样有趣的人,那么这段关系一定不会长远——别忘了,当初吸引到对方的是怎样的一个自己。


确定关系不是放弃做一个有趣的单身狗,而是把一个人时的乐趣拿出来和你最爱的人分享。


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相互吸引的两个人走到一起,时间长了难免会暴露出对方的更多缺点,很多人长吁短叹,“呀,她怎么还有这小毛病”但其实说白了,谁不会有几个小缺点呢?


“求同存异”,是你进入长期恋爱关系以后,一定要提前做好的心理准备,只有当你心理做好发现对方缺点的准备时,你才有可能更加顺畅的去接纳它,假如你眼里根本容不下曾今心目中“完美的另一半”居然会存在种种缺点,那么我只能说长期保鲜的感情与你无缘。


努力去探索两个人一起发掘的新乐趣,不害怕发现对方的小缺点,只有做好这两点,彼此的感情才算是正式进入一个良性的长期关系,祝每一个看到这里的你,感情生活都能顺利保鲜!







A Ze since grow all night with happy fish after talking one time, amative way becomes great apparently a lot of. Walked out of very quickly not only be lovelorn shadow, still depend on shiver tongue to talk about next girlfriend again inside a month. When the group photo that becomes two people appears in friend circle, harvested the assist of the good friend inside almost all circle almost. "This boy, total cipher out ceased! Total cipher out ceased!!


Never can think, still do not have happy half month, a Ze came woebegonely to come again, look at his take a percentage of a deal the about that character of desire of be unluckyfeel disheartened stops again, happy fish does not no hurry unbearably the ground gives him bubble cup hot tea. "A few meanings? " happy fish one face sneers at look at A Ze. "Can not take pleasure in other's misfortune, my what thing also is done not have, worry a bit namely. " A Ze says earnestly " I also do not know how to return a responsibility, if the girlfriend beside is so not perfect I still feel to get along more harmonious, can resemble now this girlfriend, it is really good to me, am I particularly afraid in case does the love before resembling again enter exhaustion period minute minutes euqally how to do? To moment it is in any case sees the other side not pleasing to the eye, be troubled by so that part on bad terms finally. Be troubled by so that part on bad terms finally..


It is A Ze not just actually, there also are a lot of sweetheartses to encounter such problem in our life -- " do not know how to last feeling "


Discover the cause of disease, it is not difficult to want to cure. Happy fish opened a such prescription to A Ze, on hope screen you, also can acquire this two move, rescue you to be about to lose the love of new move.


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Have a good sense, cry " recall one's suffering and think over the source of present happiness " , become you namely dress warmly and ear one's fill when, when also forgetting to starve, oneself must be what kind of life too, believe everybody has listened as a child certainly. But can go in carry out of square field surface truly its person, a few to have again? Go up in feeling especially, remember it special to your help big.


We discover a fact very easily, when most person is single, the life always wants much appearance than the state with single blame colorful a lot of. The art exhibition, meeting that sign carry out, free exhibit, premiere... those who wait recreational activities a moment to be full of each single person on the weekend, the thing with honest even interesting it doesn't matter, about a few good friends hit a ball or would rather be to get together drink a cup of tea, do not be willing bedraggled drop each god-given on the weekend.


And after entering love to concern? The category that is immersed in all sorts of two people activities basically. Shop, see a movie, have a thing, this " old 3 appearance " the fixed pattern plate that dates between sweethearts namely almost, even a lot of young associate that do not have amative experience think, tan Lian loves even if conscientiously does these a few things. This complete fault.


Hold the first court that amative delicacy spends, remind oneself forever namely, "Never satisfy at the fun before " . Since lone when the life is OK so much appearance is colorful, is there a girlfriend why not OK? Since two people can go, it is to have certainly lots and lots of the place is attracted each other, before if you enter love,abandoning doing after the relation interesting in that way person, so chairman of scarcely of this paragraph of relation is far -- did not forget, what attract each other at the outset is what kind of one each oneself.


Affirmatory relation is not to abandon making an interesting lone dog, take the pleasure when a person however the person that loves most with you is shared.


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Two people that draw each other go, time grew hard to avoid to be able to expose the more weakness that gives opposite party, a lot of people sigh and groan, "Ah, how does she still have this indisposition " but actually spoken parts in an opera, a few little weakness won't have?


"Seek common points while reserving difference " , it is you after entering long-term love to concern, must make good psychological preparation ahead of schedule, when you only psychology makes good discovery when the preparation of defect of the other side, you ability is possible more smooth go admitting it, in if be not allowed at all in your eye,laying Ceng Jin mental view " perfect other in part " can put in a variety of defect unexpectedly, so the feeling that I can say to last for a long time only and you do not have a predestined relationship.


Go poking the new fun that two people disentomb together hard, do not fear to discover the little weakness of the other side, had done this only at 2 o'clock, each other feeling just is make one's bow a benign long-term relationship, those who wish each see here you, emotional life can last smoothly!






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