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男人用“钓鱼”追女人、女人用“鱼塘”养备胎

【摘要】用“钓鱼”来形容男人追女人,我觉得很贴切。男人喜欢单个的钓,遇见一个喜欢的,就专门钓这一个,钓到了,算运气好,没钓到,啥也没有,只能继续转移到下一个目标钓。相比于女人,男人太逊...

用“钓鱼”来形容男人追女人,我觉得很贴切。男人喜欢单个的钓,遇见一个喜欢的,就专门钓这一个,钓到了,算运气好,没钓到,啥也没有,只能继续转移到下一个目标钓。相比于女人,男人太逊色了,女人用的是鱼塘,随手一捞,啥鱼都有,而且这鱼都是自己自动送上来的,都不需要自己费心。

男人想要认识一个女人,就要鼓足勇气去搭讪,要电话、微信,这样你才能认识一个女人,而有很大一部分男人不敢搭讪,认识的女生非常的少,遇见女人说话都不利索,不知道聊什么,原因就是接触的女生少。遇见一个自己喜欢的女生,鼓起勇气猛追,付出努力,投资情感,没追上,感觉要受伤了,就认为人家要的是条件,要的是房,要的是车。

女人要认识一个男人是很简单的,只需要把自己打扮的漂亮点,就有男人去搭讪她。据统计,一个长得还可以的女人,一天下来就要被搭讪十次以上,一年就有300多人,然后挑选一些认为还不错的,放在鱼塘里面养起来,再慢慢的看备胎区哪个表现好。

记得一本书上看到过这样的一个有趣的心理实验,实验人员找来了100位大学生,男女各50,然后制作了100张卡片,卡片上写着1—100的数字,将卡片贴在学生的背后,男生是单数字(1、3、5、7一直到99),女生是双数(2、4、6、8一直到100),他们能够看到别人背后的数字,但是不知道自己背后的数字,而且他们也不知道最大的数字是100最小的数字是1,实验人员要求大家可以说任何话,但不能将对方背后的数字告诉对方。

准备工作完成后,开始做实验啦。心里学家要求大家去找一位异性配对,只要两人加起来的数字越大,那么获得的奖金就越多,也就是说奖金就是俩人背后数字之和。

实验开始后,由于大家都不知道自己背后的数字,因此首先就是观察别人,很快99号男生和100号女生立刻被人找出来了。这两人身边围了一大群人,大家都想说服他们和自己配成一对,但是要求只能和一个异性配对,因此他们变得非常的挑剔,虽然不知道自己背后的数字是多少,但是从这些追求者的行为中你能够察觉自己的数字一定不小。

那些数字太小的人就到处碰壁,原本目标是一定要找90以上的人配对,但别人一看到自己的数字就不愿意,只好降低自己的目标,90不行找80,80不行找70、60。在短短的几个小时,他们就感受到了人间的冷暖,对人生的理解有了不同,由于背后数字太小,要找一个愿意配对的人是难上加难。最后他们只好凑合凑合了,比如5和6两个人配成一对,虽然只有11美金,但也好过没有。经过漫长的配对过程,时间马上要到了,还有少数人没成功配对,最后没办法了,只好草草找人完成任务,因为单一的人是拿不到奖金的。

实验结束后,心里学家发现大多数人的配对对象背后的数字都非常接近自己的数字,比如55号男生找到了60号女生,他们彼此间的数字不会相差太大,相差20以上的情况很罕见。但是令人大跌眼镜的是,100号女生的配对的对象不是99号男,也不是97或93,竟然是73号男生,两人相差了27,为什么相差了这么多?

原来100号女生被众多的追求者冲昏了头(她不知道最大数字是100、也不知道自己就是100)她在等待更大的数字的男人,等到大家都配对完毕,她终于开始慌了,于是她在剩男里找了一个数字最大的就是73号男生。她也尝试找90以上男生,但是人家早已有女伴了。

在恋爱中也是一样,女人一直在等待那个她认为更好的男人出现,当自己年龄到了,没办法了,反回备胎区找一个。男人喜欢一个女人的时候,就对她进行追求(钓鱼式),在追的过程中,女人就已经在考量你,如果你还行,把你放入备胎区接受更多的考验。

I think it's appropriate to use "fishing" to describe men chasing women. Men like single fishing, met a favorite, specialized fishing this one, caught, lucky, did not catch, nothing, can only continue to transfer to the next target fishing. Compared with women, men are too inferior, women use fish ponds, pick up any fish, and the fish are automatically sent to them, do not have to bother with their own.

If a man wants to know a woman, he must summon up the courage to chat up a woman by phone and wechat, so that you can know a woman. However, there are a large number of men who dare not chat up a woman and know very few girls. When they meet a woman, they don't talk smoothly and don't know what to talk about. Meet a girl that oneself like, summon up courage fierce chase, pay effort, invest emotion, did not catch up, feel want to be hurt, think what somebody else wants is condition, want is room, want is car.

Women want to know a man is very simple, just need to dress up beautiful, a man to talk to her. According to statistics, a long woman can be accosted more than ten times a day, there are more than 300 people a year, and then select some of those who think they are good, put them in the fish pond, and then slowly see which performance is good in the spare tire area.

I remember reading a book about such an interesting psychological experiment, the experimenter looked for 100 college students, 50 men and 50 women, and then made 100 cards, the cards write 1-100 numbers, put the cards on the back of the students, boys are single numbers (1, 3, 5, 7 until 99), The girls were even numbers (2, 4, 6, 8 up to 100). They could see other people's numbers behind them, but they did not know their own numbers. They also did not know that the largest number was 100 and the smallest number was 1.

With the preparation finished, the experiment began. Psychologists asked people to pair up with a member of the opposite sex, and as long as two people add up more numbers, they will get more money, which is the sum of the numbers behind them.

After the experiment began, since no one knew the number behind their own, the first thing they did was to observe others, and soon the 99 boy and the 100 girl were immediately identified. These two are surrounded by a large group of people, everyone wants to convince them to match up with them, but they can only be matched with one member of the opposite sex, so they become very picky, although they don't know what the number behind them is, but you can tell from the behavior of these suitors that their number must be not small.

Those whose numbers are too small will hit a wall everywhere. The original goal is to find a match with people over 90, but others will not be willing to see their own numbers, so they have to lower their goals, 90 can not find 80,80 can not find 70, 60. In just a few hours, they feel the warmth of the human world and have a different understanding of life. Because the numbers behind them are too small, it is difficult to find a willing match. In the end they had to settle for a couple of 5 and 6, for example, which was $11 but better than nothing. After a long matching process, the time is almost up, there are still a few people failed to match, finally there is no way, we have to hastily find someone to complete the task, because a single person is not to get the prize.

At the end of the experiment, psychologists found that most people matched their partners with numbers that were very close to their own. For example, the number 55 guy found the number 60 girl. But what's so surprising is that the 100 girl is not matching up with the 99 guy, or 97 or 93 guy, but with the 73 guy, a 27-point difference. Why so much difference?

It turned out that girl no. 100 was overwhelmed by so many suitors (she didn't know the biggest number was 100, nor did she know that she was 100). She was waiting for a man with a bigger number. When everyone was matched, she finally began to panic. She also tried to find a man over 90, but he already had a date.

It's the same in love. Women are always waiting for someone they think is better to come along, and when they reach their age and run out of options, they go back to the spare zone to find someone. When a man likes a woman, he goes after her (fishing), and while he's doing it, she's already thinking about you, and if you're okay, putting you in the back-up zone for more testing.

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