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太把承诺当真 你就陷入了爱情盲区

【摘要】太过绝对的承诺往往是不现实的,在爱情中也是如此。有些甜言蜜语很能满足我们的内心,这在爱情中也是不可或缺的因素。但是如果你把它当成真理,那么便是走进了盲区。盲区1:不管,你要爱我一辈子。多情于无情和常情最大的不同,那就是只有多情才相信爱可以一辈子。多情的女人是很多容易这样想的,也会这样做。于是当她们这种感觉被碰壁时,她们会因为巨大的心理反差,而去哭闹。不自觉中再在“你要爱我一辈子前面再强行加一个“不管,于是婚姻和感情的危机就来了。试想想,婚姻和情感本来应该是两个人的事,光你一个“不管能解决问题吗?盲区2:没事,他一定不会骗我的。还有,多情的女人比一般的女人更容易迷信一个人。她认为,只要是她所爱的人,她就应该相信她的一切,哪怕是漏...

  太过绝对的承诺往往是不现实的,在爱情中也是如此。有些甜言蜜语很能满足我们的内心,这在爱情中也是不可或缺的因素。但是如果你把它当成真理,那么便是走进了盲区。

  盲区1:不管,你要爱我一辈子。

  多情于无情和常情最大的不同,那就是只有多情才相信爱可以一辈子。多情的女人是很多容易这样想的,也会这样做。于是当她们这种感觉被碰壁时,她们会因为巨大的心理反差,而去哭闹。不自觉中再在“你要爱我一辈子前面再强行加一个“不管,于是婚姻和感情的危机就来了。试想想,婚姻和情感本来应该是两个人的事,光你一个“不管能解决问题吗?

  盲区2:没事,他一定不会骗我的。

  还有,多情的女人比一般的女人更容易迷信一个人。她认为,只要是她所爱的人,她就应该相信她的一切,哪怕是漏洞百出的东西摆在面前,她都不愿意去相信和面对,总会以自己的多情而去度量对方,认为我这么爱他,从来不骗他,他也一定不会骗我的。

  然而,事实上婚姻并非如此,再好再相爱的一对夫妻,没有不欺骗的,也许欺骗是无奈的,或许是善意。

  盲区3:傻瓜,我已经全部属于你了。

  其实,女人真正多起情来是非常可怕的,这种可怕不仅仅是对男人而言,而是对于她本人,她会心甘情愿彻彻底底,歇斯底里,毫无保留,义无反顾,连一点后路也不留给自己。她会详详细细告诉你她曾经到底谈过几次恋爱,分过几次手,还会告诉你她到底有多少存款,其中有多少钱是交给了父母,多少钱是借给了朋友。皆上种种,可以用她们本人经常会挂在嘴边上一句话来形容,那就是:傻瓜,我已经全部属于你了。

  盲区4:坚持,他只是在考验我。

  再给大家讲一个故事:有一个大四的女生肖,和男友在大学相恋三年。毕业的时候,她收到在外实习男友的一条短信。这条短信其实是男友不小心错发到她的手机上的,本来他是要发给另外一个由家人介绍的并且准备结婚的另一个女孩子的。也许这样的一条短信,换成别的女孩子一定会引起轩然大波或者是成为直接寻上男友家的理由。然而,正处在无比幸福满足当中的多情的肖,并没有引起注意,而是很自我地认为“他只是在考验我,结果错过了最佳拯救爱情和与别人竞争的机会。

  不管怎么样,婚姻是绝对不可能少掉欺骗的。只要稍稍有点婚姻感悟的人就会在这方面早早给自己打下预防针。

  盲区5:放心,只要有你我啥都不要。

  现实生活中,有一些女孩子少不经事,把爱情想得纯真浪漫无比。她们错误地认为,爱情就是追求纯粹的抛弃尘世所有杂念的在一起相厮相守,于是不断地用语言和行动告诉自己的男友:“放心,只要有你我啥都不要!男人们听了当然是感动万分,求之不得。

  但用不了多久,她们便会明白:原来饿着肚子谈恋爱是一件多么痛苦的事情啊?原来东搬西挪地租房住是一件多么疲惫的事情啊?但是当她们醒悟过来时,却似乎一切为时已晚,因为她们错过了选择的机会,在最有发言权的时候因为一方面的无知和多情而放弃了自己人生当中一项至关重要的权力,这个权力是对爱情生存指数作出选择的权力。

  盲区6:天哪,他发起脾气都这么有男人味。

  曾经有这样一个女人向我求过助,她说:我一直都弄不明白他为什么要和我离婚,我相夫教子,从来不让他碰下家务……我是这么的爱他,甚至连他在骂我的时候,我都觉的他是这样的有男人味……我真的不知道自己到底在哪方面做得不好。

  爱的太深切了,便就不是爱。爱可以让一个人一辈子幸福,也可以让一个人在短时间内完全失去自我。太过自我会失去爱情,失去自我也会失去爱情。现实就是这么残酷,完全付出了,对方承受不住,便会选择辜负。

  盲区7:宝贝,你应该全部是我的。

  多情的方式有很多种,其中有一种表现形式便是霸道和全部占有。但于中国人的观念来说,对于爱的霸道如果是男人也许还会好些,倘若变成女人,似乎总让人觉的有些不可理喻,甚至难免不被人当成疯子。

  在中国的观念中,父母十月怀胎,十几年含辛茹苦把儿子养大成人,凭什么一大了就全部只属于她一个人了?这等于爱情站在了亲情的对立面。就算不是因为占有欲的原因,难道在中国因为双方父母而结婚、因为双方父母而争吵、因为双方父母而离婚的例子还少吗?双方父母本来就是子女婚姻中的隐形第三者。

Too too absolute commitment often is not actual, also be such in love. Some are honey-tongued the heart that can satisfy us very much, this also is indispensable element in love. But if you should come true it,manage, was to walk into blind area so.

Blind area 1: ? Does the  that return Sao quarrel   Yi Huaicang imprints?

Amorous at callosity and general reason the biggest different, it is OK that that has amorous ability to believe to love only namely all one's life. Amorous woman considers much more easily so very much, also meet such doing. When them then this kind feels by be rebuffed when, because,they are met tremendous psychological contrast, and go crying be troubled by. Do not be in again in consciousness you want “ love me all one's life in front without giving thought to,add a “ forcibly again, then marriage and emotive crisis came. Just think thinks, marriage and affection should be two the individual's things originally, smooth can your “ solve a problem without giving thought to?

Blind area 2: ? Does joyous ú of  of emperor approach  change copy of Guo  course of study?

Still have, amorous woman has blind faith in a person more easily than average woman. She thinks, want the person that is her place love only, she should believe everything her, even if be flaw,100 thing is placed before, she is not willing to believe and be faced, total meeting with oneself amorous and go magnanimity the other side, think I love him so, do not cheat him, he also won't cheat me certainly.

However, in fact marriage is not such, again good a pair of husband and wife that love each other again, did not cheat, perhaps deceit is helpless, it is well-meaning probably.

Blind area 3: ? Pour  of  of rare  Yi Ya excuse me of Lin of thirsty brighting flatter?

Actually, the woman is truly much removing affection to come is special dreariness, this kind of dreariness is to the man character not just, however to her herself, her understanding pleasant is willing and complete, hysterical, be without reservation, honor permits no turning back, also do not leave oneself even a bit a way of escape. She can tell you she once had talked about love a few times after all in every detail, had divided a hand a few times, still can tell you she has how many deposit after all, having how many money among them was to give parents, how many money was to lend a friend. All go up a variety of, can hang in a word to describe via regular meeting with them themselves, that is: Goofy, I had belonged to you entirely.

Blind area 4: ? Does emperor of  of Ke Zheng  steal Kuang beautiful Mongolian oak to shake?

Tell a story to everybody again: Have big the female any of the twelve animals of 4, be in love 3 years in the university with male friend. When graduating, she gets a short message of outer exercitation male friend. Actually male friendly not careful fault sends her mobile phone to go up this short message, originally he is to want what introduce by family to send another and of another girl of preparative marriage. Perhaps a such short message, change other girl to be able to cause a great disturbance to perhaps be become certainly search directly on the reason of male friendly home. However, satisfying at clinking happiness in the center be like amorously, do not have bring to sb's attention, however very ego ground thinks he just is in “ test I, the result was missed optimal deliver love and the opportunity that compete with others.

Without giving thought to how, marriage drops deceit less impossibly absolutely. The person that wants in a way to bit of marriage is comprehended only can give him to hit next precautionary needles early in this respect.

Blind area 5: ? Does doubt of lot of heart of grey  of the  that sentence a model shake disease grey  ?

In real life, have a few girls little not classics work, think love purely romance is clinking. They think erroneously, love is pursuit is dinkum abandon of subcelestial and all distracting thoughts together photograph fellow photograph is defended, tell oneself male friend with language and action ceaselessly then: “ is at ease, want to our what does not want only! Male people listened is to touch of course extremely, most welcome.

But have more than is needed how long, they can understand: A how thorny issue is hungry before abdomen talks about love? So east move a how tired out thing is house of move land rent lives on the west? But wake up to reality when them when coming over, appear however when everything is late already, because they missed the opportunity of the choice, when having right to speak most because on one hand ignorance and amorous and abandoned oneself among life a crucial influence, this influence is right love lives the power that the index makes a choice.

Blind area 6: ? Buccal pay of  of ⑵ of An of ⑵ of  of wicking model  from man of the Song Dynasty of heart raw meat or fish?

Once a such women had been begged to me aid, she says: I am done all the time do not understand why he wants to divorce with me, godchild of my photograph husband, do not let him touch next household …… I am so love him, when scolding even him me even, he what I become aware is such having I do not know man flavour …… really oneself are done badly in which respect after all.

Of love too deep-felt, not be love. Love can let a person all one's life happy, also can make a person complete inside short time lose ego. Too cross ego to be able to lose love, lose ego to also can lose love. Reality is so brutal, paid completely, the other side does not bear, can choose disappoint.

Blind area 7: ? Copy of spruce course of study of thirsty of  of bud of Ω of Wen of Ρ  standing tall and upright?

Amorous means has a lot of kinds, having form of a kind of expression among them is overbearing and have entirely. But for the idea at the Chinese, to love overbearing if be a man,still perhaps meet any better, if becomes a woman, always make what the person becomes aware a little impenetrable it seems that, even hard to avoid is not regarded as bedlamite.

In Chinese idea, parental October be pregnant, ten years endure all kinds of hardships raises the son big adult, by what one big belong to her only entirely a person? This is equal to love to stand in the contrary of close affection. Because have,calculating is not desire reason, marry because of bilateral parents in China, is the example of because of bilateral parents brawl, because of bilateral parents divorce little still? Bilateral father female parent comes even if in filial marriage invisible a third party.

  太过绝对的承诺往往是不现实的,在爱情中也是如此。有些甜言蜜语很能满足我们的内心,这在爱情中也是不可或缺的因素。但是如果你把它当成真理,那么便是走进了盲区。

  盲区1:不管,你要爱我一辈子。

  多情于无情和常情最大的不同,那就是只有多情才相信爱可以一辈子。多情的女人是很多容易这样想的,也会这样做。于是当她们这种感觉被碰壁时,她们会因为巨大的心理反差,而去哭闹。不自觉中再在“你要爱我一辈子前面再强行加一个“不管,于是婚姻和感情的危机就来了。试想想,婚姻和情感本来应该是两个人的事,光你一个“不管能解决问题吗?

  盲区2:没事,他一定不会骗我的。

  还有,多情的女人比一般的女人更容易迷信一个人。她认为,只要是她所爱的人,她就应该相信她的一切,哪怕是漏洞百出的东西摆在面前,她都不愿意去相信和面对,总会以自己的多情而去度量对方,认为我这么爱他,从来不骗他,他也一定不会骗我的。

  然而,事实上婚姻并非如此,再好再相爱的一对夫妻,没有不欺骗的,也许欺骗是无奈的,或许是善意。

  盲区3:傻瓜,我已经全部属于你了。

  其实,女人真正多起情来是非常可怕的,这种可怕不仅仅是对男人而言,而是对于她本人,她会心甘情愿彻彻底底,歇斯底里,毫无保留,义无反顾,连一点后路也不留给自己。她会详详细细告诉你她曾经到底谈过几次恋爱,分过几次手,还会告诉你她到底有多少存款,其中有多少钱是交给了父母,多少钱是借给了朋友。皆上种种,可以用她们本人经常会挂在嘴边上一句话来形容,那就是:傻瓜,我已经全部属于你了。

  盲区4:坚持,他只是在考验我。

  再给大家讲一个故事:有一个大四的女生肖,和男友在大学相恋三年。毕业的时候,她收到在外实习男友的一条短信。这条短信其实是男友不小心错发到她的手机上的,本来他是要发给另外一个由家人介绍的并且准备结婚的另一个女孩子的。也许这样的一条短信,换成别的女孩子一定会引起轩然大波或者是成为直接寻上男友家的理由。然而,正处在无比幸福满足当中的多情的肖,并没有引起注意,而是很自我地认为“他只是在考验我,结果错过了最佳拯救爱情和与别人竞争的机会。

  不管怎么样,婚姻是绝对不可能少掉欺骗的。只要稍稍有点婚姻感悟的人就会在这方面早早给自己打下预防针。

  盲区5:放心,只要有你我啥都不要。

  现实生活中,有一些女孩子少不经事,把爱情想得纯真浪漫无比。她们错误地认为,爱情就是追求纯粹的抛弃尘世所有杂念的在一起相厮相守,于是不断地用语言和行动告诉自己的男友:“放心,只要有你我啥都不要!男人们听了当然是感动万分,求之不得。

  但用不了多久,她们便会明白:原来饿着肚子谈恋爱是一件多么痛苦的事情啊?原来东搬西挪地租房住是一件多么疲惫的事情啊?但是当她们醒悟过来时,却似乎一切为时已晚,因为她们错过了选择的机会,在最有发言权的时候因为一方面的无知和多情而放弃了自己人生当中一项至关重要的权力,这个权力是对爱情生存指数作出选择的权力。

  盲区6:天哪,他发起脾气都这么有男人味。

  曾经有这样一个女人向我求过助,她说:我一直都弄不明白他为什么要和我离婚,我相夫教子,从来不让他碰下家务……我是这么的爱他,甚至连他在骂我的时候,我都觉的他是这样的有男人味……我真的不知道自己到底在哪方面做得不好。

  爱的太深切了,便就不是爱。爱可以让一个人一辈子幸福,也可以让一个人在短时间内完全失去自我。太过自我会失去爱情,失去自我也会失去爱情。现实就是这么残酷,完全付出了,对方承受不住,便会选择辜负。

  盲区7:宝贝,你应该全部是我的。

  多情的方式有很多种,其中有一种表现形式便是霸道和全部占有。但于中国人的观念来说,对于爱的霸道如果是男人也许还会好些,倘若变成女人,似乎总让人觉的有些不可理喻,甚至难免不被人当成疯子。

  在中国的观念中,父母十月怀胎,十几年含辛茹苦把儿子养大成人,凭什么一大了就全部只属于她一个人了?这等于爱情站在了亲情的对立面。就算不是因为占有欲的原因,难道在中国因为双方父母而结婚、因为双方父母而争吵、因为双方父母而离婚的例子还少吗?双方父母本来就是子女婚姻中的隐形第三者。

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