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【摘要】相信爱情的人迟早会和爱情相遇文/刘若英相信爱情的人,迟早会和爱情相遇我的感情之路,有真真假假的各种传闻,我不会去回应。我常常说,感情的事情是最没有道理可讲的,谈不上谁是谁非,最后没走到一起只能归结为没有缘分。尽管如此,自己那些不成功的感情经历,还是多多少少在心里留下了一些伤痕。我和别的女人不同的地方,大概就是伤口愈合得比较快。我形容自己面对爱情时就像一头“小蛮牛”,永远使出浑身的力气去爱,从不给自己留后路。很多女人在经历过失败的恋情后,会变得胆怯和退缩,不再敢轻易地爱了。我认为,其实不存在什么失败,毕竟你们相爱时有过真诚、幸福、甜蜜,留下了那么多美丽的回忆,这些东西并不会因为你们最终没走到一起而被抹杀。所以我说,世界上只存在真诚或者是不真诚的恋情,而不存在成功或者失败的恋情。或者就是因为这样吧,我不害怕失恋,更不害怕恋爱,因为你只有勇敢去爱了,才有可能遇到那个真命天子;如果连爱都不敢爱,怎...

相信爱情的人迟早会和爱情相遇文/刘若英相信爱情的人,迟早会和爱情相遇我的感情之路,有真真假假的各种传闻,我不会去回应。我常常说,感情的事情是最没有道理可讲的,谈不上谁是谁非,最后没走到一起只能归结为没有缘分。尽管如此,自己那些不成功的感情经历,还是多多少少在心里留下了一些伤痕。我和别的女人不同的地方,大概就是伤口愈合得比较快。我形容自己面对爱情时就像一头“小蛮牛”,永远使出浑身的力气去爱,从不给自己留后路。很多女人在经历过失败的恋情后,会变得胆怯和退缩,不再敢轻易地爱了。我认为,其实不存在什么失败,毕竟你们相爱时有过真诚、幸福、甜蜜,留下了那么多美丽的回忆,这些东西并不会因为你们最终没走到一起而被抹杀。所以我说,世界上只存在真诚或者是不真诚的恋情,而不存在成功或者失败的恋情。或者就是因为这样吧,我不害怕失恋,更不害怕恋爱,因为你只有勇敢去爱了,才有可能遇到那个真命天子;如果连爱都不敢爱,怎么会遇到呢?我总以最开放的心态等待爱情的到来,不拒绝任何形式的相遇。平时和好朋友在一起,我也会嘱咐他们:“帮我留心啊,有好男人介绍给我啊。” 我发现,很多年龄偏大的女孩子,好像越是年纪大就越不好意思表现出对爱情的渴望,就越矜持,似乎就担心人家说自己“着急嫁人”。其实有什么呢,渴望幸福的心,什么时候都应该是急切的啊。我和钟石的相遇,得益于我开放的心态。这要从2006年说起了,当时我在拍摄电影《心中有鬼》,和导演滕华涛成为很好的朋友。有一次他问我:“奶茶,我觉得你这人真不错,身边怎么没有个男人呢?”我说:“你说得对呀!如果你遇到合适的人选,想着我点儿啊。” 没想到,他还真的记在了心里,用他的话说就是“每隔一段时间就把身边的单身男人过一遍”。2010年的一天,他突然想到了钟石,觉得这个人很适合我。他先去问钟石,想不想找女朋友,钟石说想;他又来问我,我也说想,但我说别搞得像相亲那么正式,最好是朋友聚会时见面,双方不至于那么尴尬。 我和钟石见面那天,彼此都带了一堆朋友。一看见钟石高高大大、斯斯文文的样子,我就觉得很顺眼。我们相互留了电话号码。没过几天,他就给我打电话,说他搞了一个摄影展,问我愿不愿意去看?我当然愿意,他就开车来接我,我们的恋情就这样开始了。交往了半年多,2011年8月8日,我们在北京领取了结婚证。领完证当天,我给滕华涛打电话,由衷地谢谢他让我遇见了生命中的另一半。后来我回台湾,还特地按照台湾的风俗,带回来喜饼送给他。能把单身生活过好的女人,才能和男朋友相处好 很多大龄的女人都有一个感觉,就是现在的男人都害怕结婚,她们常常说:“我都一大把年纪了,找一个人就是为了结婚,我没有时间再陪他谈一个长长的恋爱。”我想,这也是许多“剩女”最感到困惑的问题吧——好不容易遇到一个合适的男人,当然想赶紧套牢他。可是,也正是因为这种心态,让男人们觉得心里不踏实:刚认识就这么急吼吼的,有什么目的啊?于是,他就逃了。 “剩女”们为什么会给人这种“急吼吼”的感觉呢?一方面是因为年龄大了,好不容易遇到一个满意的男人,担心夜长梦多,想赶紧把关系确定下来;另一方面,单身生活过得太久了,觉得太孤单、太无聊了,就想找个伴儿,进入二人世界。 我没有这样的心态,这么多年我都是一个人过来的。大概在30多几岁的时候,我有一阵子特别想结婚,但是过了35岁,结婚的念头就很淡了——反正也这个年纪了,急也没用,索性好好挑挑。慢慢地,我一个人可以去做很多事情:逛街,看电影,喝咖啡……有一天我在家里,给自己煮了很好吃的牛肉面,配上新鲜的蔬菜,坐在阳光包围着的餐桌前细细品尝。我突然觉得,一个人的生活,真的也很不错嘛,就让我这样自己过一辈子,也没什么不可以。 也许正是因为我将单身生活打理得很好,结婚的念头不是那么迫切,所以在和钟石恋爱之后,我给了他很大的空间——我不会一天给他打很多电话,问他在做什么,和谁在一起;我不会像个小女孩一样,凡事依赖他、要他陪着我。 有时候拍戏时,我们经常半个月不见面,因为我觉得大家都是成年人,都有自己的事情做,只要心里有对方就行,没必要天天黏在一起。倒是他有时候不放心,会抽空来探我的班。我排话剧《在西厢》时正巧是桑拿天,在密封的剧场里排练,挥汗如雨。我中暑了,脸色白得像纸一样,头晕得走不了路。剧组人都吓坏了,要叫救护车。我自己最镇定,让人扶着我到外面通风阴凉的地方,吃了一支冰棍,感觉就好多了。到了傍晚,钟石来看我,一个劲地责备我为什么不给他打电话。我说:“这样的小事,我自己就能处理好。” 情人节到了,钟石工作很忙,他发愁怎么空出时间陪我。我打电话告诉他,我约了一个女朋友一起过节,所以他不用特地陪我,也不用给我送花。只要愿意,鲜花随时随地都可以送,干吗都赶在情人节那天像完成一个任务似的呢?一开始,钟石还以为我在赌气,后来看见我真的不是很介意才放心。成熟的女人就是这样子,更注重一份感情的内在品质,而不在意形式。这份大气和豁达,会让男人觉得很舒服。我的婚讯传出以后,很多朋友都说我保密工作做得好,那么厉害的“狗仔”也没有拍到我和男朋友在一起的照片。其实,并不是我刻意保密,而是我们俩根本就没有多少时间在一起。这样的距离恰到好处,会保持你的神秘感,也让一个男人觉得和你在一起自由轻松,到最后“急吼吼”的人就变成是他了,就像他向我求婚时说的那样:“我想和你生活在一起,只有这样才能减轻我对你的牵挂还有那种时时刻刻有可能失去你的担心,因为我觉得你很享受单身生活,这真是太让我害怕了!”哈,男人就是这样——你黏着他,他就想办法要逃;你把自己的生活和心灵都打理好,不依赖他、不试图套牢他,他就会对你产生好奇,就想和你待在一起,就想和你结婚。 丰富有趣的女人,最能吸引男人 有很多关于钟石的传闻,说他是“富二代”,说他“身价10亿”,还说他比我大12岁……其实,他哪是什么“富二代”啊,他的父母都是普通的大学教授,他自己的工作也只是和金融沾边而已。我们最终能走到一起,和我们的兴趣爱好一致有很大关系。 我曾经问过钟石:“第一次见到我是什么感觉?”他说:“一个穿着衬衫牛仔裤、拿着一个大相机东拍西拍的女孩子,我一看就喜欢了。”是的,钟石是一个狂热的摄影发烧友,恰好我也是,这为我们能迅速走近对方打下了良好的基础。 钟石和几个朋友搞了一个摄影论坛,他会把自己的作品展示在那里。我们认识以后,我也会把我的很多作品放到那里,这样我们在一起就会有说不完的话,评价对方的作品哪里好哪里不好。 有一次,我看见我的作品下面附有很专业的批评帖子,估计是他留的,我当时就很生气,以牙还牙地在他的作品下面也给了很多批评意见。我们就这样相互“攻击”了 好长时间,搞得论坛里的人都在议论:“这两个人是谁啊,怎么总是互相掐?”到后来他们知道是我们,恍然大悟:“嘿,真是打是亲骂是爱,不打不骂不相识啊。” 难得两人都有空时,我们会一人骑一辆单车,拿着相机钻北京的胡同小巷,像两个逃学的孩子,累了就坐在路边的咖啡店里歇一歇,饿了就在街头找一间小餐馆,点几个家常菜,要一瓶啤酒,边吃边喝有滋有味。有意思的是,我从来没有被人认出来。有一次,我们在路边摊吃饭,一个女孩子悄悄对身边的朋友说:“你看看这个人像不像刘若英?”她的朋友说:“像是像,但是不可能啊,刘若英怎么会跑到这里吃饭啊!”这些小插曲,总是带给我们很多快乐。 我们都喜欢阅读,平时买书时会很自然地问对方有什么需要,然后一起下单。我很喜欢听钟石那一口醇厚的京片子,就让他读书给我听。我们窝在沙发里,我的头枕在他的腿上,他的胳膊接着我的肩膀。读到两个人都有触动的地方,我们就停下来,交流心里的感受,说说各自的往事……经常读着读着、说着说着,窗外的天空就黑了。看着窗外的灯一盏盏亮起来,我们真的有一种相依为命、地老天荒的感觉。 很多女人可能会觉得,给一个男人做饭啊洗衣服啊会容易抓住他的心。我的观念不是这样,那些事情保姆能够做得更好,而一个男人和一个女人生活在一起,更多的是寻找一种灵魂上的沟通和相契,而一旦你和他建立起这种灵魂上的沟通和相契,你们的感情就会水到渠成、修得正果。 我和钟石说好了,婚后我决不会在家里做全职太太,还是照常工作、唱歌、演戏、写作,哪样也不耽误。我问他:“娶了一个有很多兴趣很多爱好的老婆,你会不会觉得很亏啊?”他说:“就是因为你这么丰富这么有趣,我才娶你的;如果把你娶回来,你就不干那些事了,只在家里给我洗衣做饭,我才觉得亏了呢。”懂爱姐点赞有桃花,欢迎戳右上角???分享给更多人哟 (*^__^*)点击下方“阅读原文”查看更多↓↓↓

The person that believes love is met sooner or later and love encountering article / the person that Liu Reying believes love, can encounter with love sooner or later the road of my feeling, have all sorts of talks of holiday of true true and false, I won't be responded to. I often say, least truth can say emotive thing, do not talk to go up is whose blame, did not go finally can end is without lot. Nevertheless, oneself those unsuccessful feeling experience, still left a few scar in the heart more or less. I and other woman's different place, it is cut cicatrizations more quickly probably. One resembles when I describe myself to face love " small pretty ox " , forever exert all over effort goes loving, never give oneself leave a way out. A lot of women are after the amour that has experienced failure, can become cowardly and shrink back, dare love easily no longer. I think, nonexistent what fails actually, after all you love each other to cross genuine, happy, sweetness from time to tome, kept the memory of so much beauty, these things can not go finally because of you and be obliterated. So I say, the amour with disingenuous perhaps sincerity exists only on the world, and the amour that nonexistent success perhaps fails. Because,perhaps be such, I do not fear to be lovelorn, more do not fear love, because you loved bravely only, just encounter the emperor of that true life likely; If dare not love repeatedly, how can be you encountered? I always await the arrival of love with the openest state of mind, do not reject the encountering of any forms. Be together with the good friend at ordinary times, I also can enjoin them: "Help me take care, had had man introduction to give me. " I discover, a lot of ages slant old girl, seem the more age feels embarrassed more greatly the longing that shows pair of love, more missish, say oneself with respect to afraid other people it seems that " anxious marry a person " . What to have actually, yearn for happy heart, when should be agog. The encountering of I and Zhong Shi, the state of mind that I open profit from. This should speak of from 2006, I am filming at that time the film " the there is sth fishy in the heart " , with the director Teng Huatao becomes very good friend. Once he asks me: "Tea with milk, I feel your this person is really right, how is there a man beside? " I say: "You say rightly! If you encounter appropriate person selected, thinking me bit ah. " did not think of, he still is written down really was in in the heart, if using him, say even if " every other passes the lone man beside for some time " . A day of 2010, he thought of Zhong Shi suddenly, feel this individual suits me very much. He asks Zhong Shi first, want not to want to look for a girlfriend, zhong Shi says to want; He asks me again, I also say to want, but I say to be not done so that resemble dating so formal, had better be a friend meet when the party, both sides is unapt so awkward. I and bell stone meet that day, each other took one caboodle friend. Stone of bell of at sight of is high big big, gentle appearance, I feel very pleasing to the eye. We took telephone number each other. Had done not have a few days, he calls to me, say he did a photography to exhibit, ask I wish to not be willing to look? I am willing of course, he drives will receive me, our amour began so. Interacted half an year is much, on August 8, 2011, we got a marriage certificate in Beijing. Get card that day, I call to Teng Huatao, unfeignedly thanks him to let me encounter the other in part in life. I answer Taiwan later, return specially the custom according to Taiwan, bring back happy cake sends him. Too can good single life woman, ability and boy friend had gotten along big woman has a feeling, the man that is now fears to marry, they often say: "I a big age, seeking a person is to marry, I accompany him to talk about to grow long have a love affair again without time. " I think, this also is a lot of " remnant daughter " most the problem that feels bemused -- good encounter a right man not easily, want to be covered rapidly of course prison he. But, also plant because of this just about state of mind, let men feel to not be free from anxiety in the heart: Just knew growl of so urgent growl, what objective is there? Then, he escaped. "Remnant daughter " people why can you give a person this kind " urgent growl growl " feel? Because the age is old,be on one hand, good the man that encounters a satisfaction not easily, worry about a long delay may cause trouble, want to determine the impact rapidly; On the other hand, single life passes too for a long time, feel too alone, too dull, want to seek a partner, enter group of 2 the world. I do not have such state of mind, so old I am a person come over. Be in many years old 30 probably when, I have a period of time to want to marry particularly, but passed 35 years old, conjugal thought is very weak -- anyway also this age, urgent trashy also, carry well simply. Slowly, my person can do a lot of businesses: Shop, see a movie, drink coffee... one day I am in the home, boiled very delicious beef face to oneself, deserve to go up fresh vegetable, before sitting in the table that sunshine is surrounding fine fine sample. I feel suddenly, one the individual's life, very pretty good also really, let I myself pass all one's life so, also it doesn't matter is not OK. Perhaps do single life very well because of me just about, conjugal thought is not so pressing, it is so after He Zhongshi love, I gave him very large space -- I won't make a lot of telephone calls one day to him, ask what he is doing, be together with who; I won't resemble a little girl same, everything depends on him, want his for company me. When taking sport occasionally, we often half month does not see, because I feel everybody is adult, the thing that has oneself is done, there should be the other side to go in the heart only, not necessary every day sticky together. It is he is not at ease occasionally, can manage to find time come explore my class. I discharge a modern drama " in on the west compartment " when happen to is sauna day, in the rehearse in sealed theater, drip with sweat. I sufferred heatstroke, complexion must resemble paper in vain same, dizziness gets a way. Play staff person was psyched out, want to call an ambulance. Myself is the calmest, let a person helping me up to the outside ventilated and shady and cool place, ate an ice-lolly, feeling a lot of. Arrived towards evening, zhong Shi will see me, blame me persistently why to to call to him. I say: "Such bagatelle, myself can have been handled. " the Valentine's Day arrived, bell stone job is very busy, he is anxious how to give time to accompany me for nothing. I call tell him, I made an appointment with a girlfriend to celebrate a festival together, so he need not specially accompanies me, also need not send a flower to me. Want to be willing only, the flower can send at any time and place, drive in the Valentine's Day to resembled finishing a job that day why on earth like? At the beginning, zhong Shi still thinks I am in feel wronged and act rashly, see I am not to mind ability to be at ease very much really later. Mature woman is this appearance, pay attention to an emotive more underlying tone, and pay no attention to a form. This air and open-minded, can let a man feel very comfortable. After my marriage dispatch comes out, a lot of friends say I keep secret the job is done well, so fierce " dog young " the picture that also did not take I and boy friend to be together. Actually, not be I keep secret painstakingly, however we two be together without how many time at all. Such distance is proper, can maintain your uncanny sense, also let a man feel to be together with you freedom is relaxed, to finally " urgent growl growl " the person becomes is him, when proposing to me like him, say in that way: "I want to live together with you, only such ability reduce me to be cared to yours still have the sort of concern that loses you likely momently, because I feel you very enjoy single life, this is really too let me fear! " ha, the man is such -- your stick together he, he thinks method wants to escape; You had done your life and spirit, do not depend on him, do not try to cover prison he, he can produce curiosity to you, want to be waited for together with you, want to marry with you. Abound interesting woman, can attract a man to have a lot of talks about Zhong Shi most, saying him is " rich 2 generation " , say him " social status 1 billion " , still say he is bigger than me 12 years old... actually, what is his where " rich 2 generation " ah, his parents is average college professor, his own job just also is mixed financial relevant just. We can go finally, with our interest the hobby has very big concern consistently. I once asked Guo Zhongshi: "See what feeling I am for the first time? " he says: "Close-fitting pants of shirt of a dress, taking a big watch for a chance east shoot the girl that shoots on the west, I looked to like. " yes, the photography that Zhong Shi is a fanaticism has a fever friendly, apropos I also am, this can approach quickly for us the other side laid good foundation. Zhong Shi and a few friends did forum of a photography, he can show his work over. After we are known, I also can put my a lot of work there, such we can have the word that does not say together, the work where good where that evaluates each other is bad. Once, below the work that I see me with very professional criticism card, he leaves estimation, I am very angry at that time, also gave a lot of criticism a tooth for a tooth the opinion below his work. We so mutual " attack " very long, do so that the person in forum is commenting: "Who are these two people, how be always mutual clutch? " to later they know is us, suddenly be enlightened: "Hey, really hitting is close scolding is love, do not hit do not scold not be acquainted. " god-given two people at one's leisure, we meet one person ride a bicycle, taking camera to get the alley lane of Beijing, resemble two children that kip, tired sit to rest in the cafes of roadside, hungry look for a chophouse in street, choose course of a few the daily life of a family, want a bottle of beer, the edge eats an edge to drink grow has taste. Interesting is, I never am recognized. Once, we have a meal in roadside booth, a girl says to the friend beside stealthily: "Do you see Liu Reying of this figure unlike? " her friend says: "Resembling is to resemble, but impossible, how can Liu Reying run to here to have a meal! " these small episode, always bring us a lot of joy. We like to read, the meeting when buying a book at ordinary times very naturally asks the other side has what need, issue sheet together next. I like to listen to Zhong Shi very much that one full-bodied Beijing film, let him read to listen to me. Our nest is in sofa, my headrest is on his leg, his arm catchs my shoulder. Read two people to have the place that touch, we stop, communicate the feeling in the heart, say respective past... often reading reading, saying, the sky outside the window is black. The lamp outside looking at a window a small cup shines, we have a kind to depend on each other really, the feeling of waste of land old sky. A lot of women may feel, cook to a man ah wash the dress ah the heart that can capture him easily. My idea is not such, those its baby-sitter can be done weller, and a man and life of a woman are together, more it is the communication that searchs a kind of soul to go up and photograph agree, and once you and he builds the communication on this kind of soul and phase,engrave, your feeling is met success will come when conditions are ripe, repair if really. I and bell stone come to an agreement or understanding, I will never do full-time wife in the home after marriage, still be as usual the job, sing, act in a play, writing, what kind of also is not delayed. I ask him: "Married to have a lot of interest the wife of a lot of hobbies, can you feel very deficient? " he says: "Namely because you are so rich so interesting, I just marry you; If marry you,come back, you do not do those things, wash clothes to me in the home only cook, I just felt to have a deficit. " assist of dot of elder sister knowing love has peach blossom, welcome stamp top right corner? ? ? Share more person oh (*^__^*) clicks lower part " read textual " examine ↓ of more ↓ ↓

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