This year on January 13, harbor intermediary explodes a fine horse of the Kingdom of Wei of TVB male god outstanding madam Zhang Lihua is off the rails, and Wei Jun outstanding still by be kept inside a drum-be kept in the dark.
Media is very cruel, taking a photograph to come to interview Wei Jun outstanding.
Wei Jun outstanding reaction can weighs gentleman, say inconvenience reveals overmuch private life, at present oneself still do not have the thought of the divorce, just need Jing Yijing.
But final this paragraph of marriage still fails to maintain go down, media confirms recently, two people divorce already formally.
Late on June 1, wei Jun outstanding ex-wife Zhang Lihua accepts media special report, clarify a few pairs of oneself unfavorable coverages, admit oneself are off the rails, produce extramarital affair with others during marital hold together and excuse.
If say before if about them marital report has media add inflammatory details to, so speak out from herself mouth, should be the most advantageous to oneself " the truth " .
Can read her statement, I did not feel to make it clear that what is misunderstood, are a lot of reason like instead to ever was acquainted -- is this the argue word that those off the rails men often say?
One, I am off the rails you are caused
Although Zhang Lihua admits he should not be below the circumstance that has not divorced, concern with others happening, but she also emphasizes at the same time, this is not one the individual's fault, wei Jun outstanding also should lose on very big one share responsibility.
Wei Jun outstanding what mistake to have after all?
Above all, disposition shoulds not. Wei Jun outstanding like quiet, come home after knock off watch TV, take care of a daughter, and Zhang Lihua likes lively, often make an appointment with a friend to open a clique to be opposite.
Sometimes the friend makes an appointment with their husband and wife to go out to play, dan Weijun outstanding can strand at 89 o'clock in the evening, very feel disappointed, become him Zhang Lihua to go out to play with the friend slowly so, wei Jun outstanding sleep in the home.
Next, lack between two people communicate, almost 0 communication, each are busy each.
Finally, wei Jun outstanding too good to the daughter, got up to cook breakfast to the daughter at 4 o'clock in the morning, it is a perfect father, did not consider the feeling of the wife however.
Booth hand, it is the person ceased to be faithful really what you do is wrong, good to the daughter even undivided attention the excuse that also became harm wife.
In recent years outstanding career is immersed in Wei Jun trough, to raise the home, he can attend of all kinds business often to act only make money, overdrew greatly oneself fame and body, just he 52 years old becomes grow stout, overstaffed.
After having a daughter, he is be most willing to becomes daughter slave more, be patted for many times holding a daughter in the arms to shop, receive a daughter to classes are over, taking a daughter to shop etc, the daughter is very close also he.
Zhang Lihua is spending husband hardship to earn the money that come to did not feel distressed however, shop namely almost in what bask in on gregarious platform and travel. She at ordinary times live even if attend a clique to be opposite everywhere, be patted many hot shot.
She also takes the daughter rarely, without giving thought to,be oppugned by the outside all the time the child, the way that she chooses to defend for oneself is to announce mother and daughter to close according to, try to prove to be in Wei Jun outstanding when be absent, does she also have a portion to be being helped take care of a daughter -- did this reason explode infirmly?
A lot of off the rails people can search the mistake of the other side desperately, the error that uses opposite party will cover his issue, earn sympathize with regret of dispersive perhaps ashamed.
Every paragraphs of marriage can have underlying problem, everybody also can have fault between marriage, but mistake and wrong character are different, a kind of mistake also cannot replace additionally one kind of mistake, the wrong disaccord of management marriage drinks the wrong confuse sth with sth else that breaks through principle and bottom line.
Marriage is not happy, it is the unfortunate blessing of two people, and Wei Jun of outstanding choice is absorption take care of a daughter, defend in the home, the way that she chooses is to run however a door, nocturnal night playing and singing, with friend lump, and have off the rails talk for many times, after all who is just the person that should be in charge of for marital failure?
2, I do not divorce, because have laziness,be
Zhang Lihua says these year two people are very painful, the reason that did not divorce has two.
Was to have a child, the child became the exclusive bridge between them.
2 it is to have laziness, do not be willing to change, procrastinating to make exterior time all the time.
The a bitth I believe, it is become Mom, understand this mood that makes do with for the child.
But very doubtful at 2 o'clock, it is to block up apparently go up public comment, what because their husband and wife concerns,outer bound looks and say without her is so bad.
For instance 2017, wei Jun the peaceful food dining room of outstanding investment kicks off, he and Zhang Lihua make public a kiss before camera lens, relationship of husband and wife is very close.
2018, they go to Canada ski, still pull hand group photo, it is husband and wife of a pair of conjugal love likewise it seems that.
These act are said by Zhang Lihua now is the exterior time that handles the outside, act in a play to look to others, the real reason that this can conceal her why to to divorce -- do not divorce to just be abandoned do not drop Wei Jun outstanding money.
Zhang Lihua ever had expressed to media, "My disposition does not suit to do housewife, what husband and child do not represent life is all. My person comes Hong Kong, major person has bias to me, so I must try to make a good showing, want to build oneself career all the time. Want to build oneself career all the time..
This word says is very try to make a good showing, it is the career did not see what she builds only, this home relies on Wei Jun completely outstanding maintaining, make money to be spent to her desperately.
She is patted for the first time after marriage with bicycle athlete Deng Hong course of study has a meal after the close photograph of appointment, wei Jun outstanding chose to pardon wife, not only did not censure, the hut that still lives two people changed a person of extraordinary powers curtilage, express publicly to hope to repair relation of husband and wife through this action.
Include to divorce even, wei Jun outstanding also have very much take on, give sufficient her solatium, of the daughter bring up authority to put in his 's charge, even if economy has difficulty, to reduce life cost, the plan sells a house to follow a daughter to emigrate to southeast Asia, also want to be in charge of after all to her, it is do what by humanity and duty really.
Zhang Lihua is very clear the man outside is slippery, was patted January this year also ended as the divorce with the foreigner's extramarital affair, have Wei Jun to her without the person outstanding so so open-armed, low-down, so self-surrender.
So she is not willing to divorce easily, even if she does not like him really, but the fund that can like him, anyway he also without giving thought to she, by her outside to the top of one's bent play.
If not be the beginning of the year,be patted this authentic evidence, she still won't choose possibly to divorce. Herself also admits, although with Wei Jun outstanding spouse concern cannot be repaired, but also appreciate him to be in took care of oneself very well in those years in the past.
A lot of off the rails people choose not to divorce, because still loving,not be, because this paragraph of marriage is profitable still,be only.
They are blaming their unfortunate blessing outside at the same time, do not agree to free oneself however at the same time, continue the surplus value of exploit marriage.
3, marriage is not happy, so I should escape there extramarital affair
Zhang Lihua expresses, she and fine horse of the Kingdom of Wei outstanding had concerned 6 years without normal husband and wife, the reason is to discover both sides is improper.
It is the age above all improper, two people differ 20 years old.
It is habits and customs next improper, the viewpoint of value of two people, liked thing is completely different.
Existence also is before these improper marriage, but in those days Wei Jun outstanding it is the best alternative that she can discover, she can encounter the TVB male spirit that she once admired, be mad with joy naturally, where to still consider on other.
Two people fall in love at first sight in bar, 8 lunar hind marry.
Marry Wei Jun outstanding when, zhang Lihua has 20 years old only, when the daughter is born, she ability is 23 years old. Before some people had not begun real life, she has ended, become a mother.
The identity of mother and wife restrained her, the smooth and steady peace after she cannot admire him completely to read 1000 sail altogethers, the only yearning the dazzling human world with its myriad temptations outside.
True improper not be the age, also not be habits and customs, however the life aim of two people is not synchronous, he rambles tired, consider stop a car, what she thinks is I had not played enough.
Zhang Lihua suggestion is in this paragraph of marriage, oneself are doleful and intolerable, "Did not get caring on affection, I serve as a woman, hope somebody cares me, he did not realize the likelihood. He did not realize the likelihood..
She has red to hear all the time after marriage, ground of one is assured and bold with justice and other man associate are very close, those who depend on is nevertheless " lack love because of marriage, I can search outwards only " sodden common excuse.
This is the reason that a lot of off the rails people defend for oneself, fantastic and common.
Although do not have a person to binding them to marry, also binding them not to let leave without the person, they do not agree to face a problem correctly however, slant should with off the rails as the method that solves these problems, bite off own head.
Escaped not to solve real marital problem, and real happy problem. Escape to escape, it is to be at large to be in from the key that solves a problem, this kind escapes, be despair, terrified, sneaky, irresponsible, can let the life become more complex only.
Above is the commonnest ground among extramarital affair and crammer these 3, off the rails the Bug that is human nature, the conscience feel well to let oneself a bit, a lot of people must the behavior rationalize oneself, search psychology to free oneself for oneself.
But this kind of thing does not need to explain really, explain more flaw is more, be inferior to crouching to hold a head in arms to allow to hit allow to beat, be sympathized with more easily instead.
The men and women is such.
Because even if have 100 thousand reason, also was to violate a promise, disappoint feeling, harmed a sweetheart.
The cause and effect in emotive world circulates, those who betrayed others, also can be cheated by others place, harmed others, also can get hurt on additionally a few person.
Probably Wei Jun outstanding understand this reason more than anybody now, he says publicly, everything now is his disappoint before the Nemesis of cummer Teng beautiful name.
More important than repenting, be this is nodded